Fathers Rights

An Experiment

February 9, 2018

In one of my college courses, we are learning about legislation in my province.  There was a few articles I had to read based on some information of children and child support, fatherless homes, parental alienation and other similar topics.  I was happy with the content I was reading, as it supported some of my personal beliefs and opened the door for discussion on the topic at hand.  Most of my classmates are 17-19, women, and childless (both step and biological).

Because of the ages of my classmates and their life experiences, I had expected most not to have thought much about their opinions of these topics.  I knew what my opinions were and some of my close peers.  This got me thinking : Do others have the same opinion as me?  So I decided to ask.

The experiment.

I took to my Twitter and Instagram and made some polls.  Instagram only has 2 options when doing a pole.  Twitter has a bit more features to ask a bit more information.  Before showing some results, I just wanted to remind everyone that my Twitter and Instagram is for this blog, and therefore I probably have many Step Mom followers.  The nature of my followers might have an influence for the data that was gathered.  So, to contrast that I asked a few questions on my personal Instagram and gathered some opinions from individuals who are not parents or young, single mothers.

Do you believe in child support?

Instagram votes 73% for and 27% against child support.  On Twitter yes got 43%, no at 0%, and depending on circumstance with 57%.  My personal Instagram achieved 69% for yes, and 31% for no.

Before thinking more deeply about child support, I thought more realistically and less about my bitterness towards the fact that a good chunk of my boyfriends income goes in her pocket.  I don’t believe in child support, but I also believe it to be circumstantial as well, and I will explain that later on.

What should child support be based on?

For my Instagram post, 60% voted for the cost of the child, and 40% based on income.  In my Twitter pole, 29% voted cost of child, 18% payers income, 18% recipient income, and 35% fixed amount.

I found these results interesting.  Cost of child can often be more expensive than what would be ordered for income, especially if the recipient isn’t great at couponing, price matching, or buying no-name brands.  The problem with basing child support on income is that it is usually based off the gross amount, and not the net income.  However, ordering child support based on recipients income could be problematic in the respect that some may take advantage of this and use it as an excuse not to peruse a better paying job.  In terms of a fixed amount, depending what the amount is, could be beneficial or problematic, depending on the payers income level.

Should Dads monthly expenses be taken into consideration when ordering child support?

One of the most frustrating parts about child support payments is that is on top of many other bills that accumulate over the month, and it could be the difference between paying bills off or getting behind.  Twitter and Instagram were fairly close in agreeing that fathers monthly expenses should be a contributing factor when ordering child support.

Are Mothers and Fathers equal?

For my blog Instagram, it was unanimous that fathers and mothers are equal when it comes to importance and rights to parenting time.  On my personal Instagram, it was not the same.  There were a few of my followers that didn’t agree that fathers held an equal importance to their children’s lives.


Should child support be monitored?

Again, Instagram and Twitter were very close in opinion.  Even my personal Instagram had similar opinions on whether or not child support be monitored by the courts.

Although I am not exactly sure how the courts could monitor the spending of child support, this was an interesting question to consider.


Should 50/50 custody be automatic when in the process of settling custody?


The reply on both Instagram and Twitter was pretty even.  It seems that opinions are split between awarding 50/50 right off the gate, and not.  Having 50/50 to start with as custody battles start could be potentially an issue for children and parents in abusive relationships trying to get away.

A maximum number allowed to order for child support?

In Canada, the most amount of child support ever ordered has been $65,000 per month.  Currently, child support is being ordered based on the amount the paying parent makes per year on a net income.  So this begs the question:  Should there be a ceiling amount allowed to be ordered for child support?  The majority of both Twitter users and Instagram users agree that there should be a cap.



Stay tuned for my opinion.

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