The only time my boyfriend has ever spent overnights with his son was the few nights in the hospital after he was born. For almost two years now, he has never spent a night with him.
The court process has been incredibly long and stressful process. We fought tooth and nail to finally get the little boy overnight at our place.
We finally got our first overnight visit, and it was amazing. Our day was so full with fun things, and so many first experiences. We went to the city to go shopping in the mall, came home for dinner, had a bath and read some bedtime stories.
My boyfriend has never given the little boy a bath before. Little boy was scared of our bathtub, and the only way we could get him in the tub was if my boyfriend went in with him. He was apprehensive, as having a bath at Dad’s was totally new and foreign for him. After his bath, we got him into his jammies and read some bed time stories. I had purchased some books I was going to give him for Christmas, but his father couldn’t wait and read them to him anyways (they were a great hit). He slept all through the night, and even slept in longer than he usually does when he is with his Mom.
It was a giant step for us, and we feel a little bit more like a family. This is something we have both been waiting for for such a long time. We are so relieved his fist sleepover was a success, as it just proves to his Mom how comfortable he is with us.
I can’t wait for the next one.