The little ones are hard at work in school, creating beautiful Mother’s Day crafts. Tracing their little hands over coloured construction paper, cutting them out to make pretty flowers out of them. Making beautiful cards expressing love and appreciation.
Your fridge will be empty. You won’t have a beautiful masterpiece to display. You’re only a step mom, with no children of your own.
Yet, you mother your step children. You kiss boo-boo’s and scare monsters from under the bed. You read bedtime stories, cook dinner, help them with their homework, and love them dearly. All the work you do for them goes unnoticed today.
How do you get through it?
It’s a hard day for the Childless Step Mother’s, as a lot of us feel as if we fill the role, but do not get celebrated. We do everything a “real” mother does, the only thing that is different is the biological part. Here are a few things that you can do that might make this dreadful day a little easier.
Celebrate other Mothers.
It may not be your Mother’s day. However, you have many Mothers in your life. Do something special with your own Mother, Grandmother, Aunts and friends. Have a dinner or pedicure with just the girls and celebrate the day as women who care for little humans.
Chances are, you don’t Treat Yo Self often. Mother’s Day is the perfect day to do so. Get a message, get your nails done, freshen up your hair, see a movie. Do something nice for yourself. After all, you deserve it.
Take a moment.
Take a moment to reflect on not only yourself, but also Bio Mom. Even if you don’t have a great relationship, silently and to yourself, compliment her on all the aspects that make her a great mom. Allow this day to be about you step child’s mother and all the things she has had to do and sacrifice for your step child.
Don’t get your hopes up.
You might be thinking “Maybe this year my husband/step child will finally give me something/acknowledge me on this day!”. Stop. If you don’t have expectations, you cannot be let down. If they do something, that’s really awesome. But, if they don’t, it’s best not to have any expectations to disappoint you later on.
Celebrate on Step Mother’s Day.
Step Mother’s Day is on the 20th this year. Hopefully time lines up and you have your step children on that day and you can celebrate with dinner and desert.
Let it go.
Unfortunately, this is an aspect of life that we cannot control. This may be one of those moments where you just have to accept the outcome, and just let it go.