As Christmas is creeping up, I feel like I have to make a blog post. For a while now, I have been at a loss about what to write. And frankly, I have been really busy with this college semester coming to and end.
When you have a step family, holidays are often split up between households. For most families, they get the children for Christmas eve to Christmas morning every other year.
On the year that you get the kids for Christmas eve and morning, it’s a great time and super exciting. On the year that you don’t, your Christmas can feel empty or incomplete.
Little boy will be turning 2 in the new year, so unfortunately I don’t have a “Step Mom Survival Guide to Christmas” for you. I haven’t gotten the opportunity to really figure those things out – and things seem to be working great with her lately.
Some things we need to remember:
It’s easy to get caught up in the stressful aspects of the holidays. Making sure the house is clean for company, cooking and baking, and everything else. In the grand scheme of things, your family and friends will not notice if you didn’t dust every inch of your main floor.
Relax and enjoy this time with your family.
Your presence is worth more than presents.
Not only that, but also having a positive presence is also very important. If you’re stressed out, or worrying too much about little things, then your presence will not be taken well.
Make the best of what you have.
For any Step Mom, this is a skill that will come naturally. Because we don’t always have lots of time, we learn how to make do with what we have. The holidays are no different. For most of us, we will only have our Step Kids half of the time, so make sure those moment count.
Enjoy this time with your family.
I know this is an obvious, but we get too caught up in all the small details, that Christmas just passes us on by.